I am an ISFJ.

I took the Myers-Briggs Personality Test that @mpolinar tweeted today and HOLY CRAP, I'm just MINDBLOWN at how accurate the results are.

I actually took this personality test years ago and got the exact same result. But this time around, the results have a lot more meaning; the last few years have given me a much better understanding of what makes me tick.

Here are some of the results that really speak to me:

ISFJs are characterized above all by their desire to serve others, their "need to be needed."

...They are notoriously bad at delegating ("If you want it done right, do it yourself"). And although they're hurt by being treated like doormats, they are often unwilling to toot their own horns about their accomplishments because they feel that although they deserve more credit than they're getting, it's somehow wrong to want any sort of reward for doing work (which is supposed to be a virtue in itself).

In the workplace, ISFJs are methodical and accurate workers, often with very good memories and unexpected analytic abilities; they are also good with people in small-group or one-on-one situations because of their patient and genuinely sympathetic approach to dealing with others. ISFJs make pleasant and reliable co-workers and exemplary employees, but tend to be harried and uncomfortable in supervisory roles. They are capable of forming strong loyalties, but these are personal rather than institutional loyalties; if someone they've bonded with in this way leaves the company, the ISFJ will leave with them, if given the option.

Like most Is, ISFJs have a few, close friends. They are extremely loyal to these, and are ready to provide emotional and practical support at a moment's notice. (However, like most Fs they hate confrontation; if you get into a fight, don't expect them to jump in after you. You can count on them, however, run and get the nearest authority figure.)

Source: http://typelogic.com/isfj.html

...Their primary interest is in the safety and security of those they care about - their family, their circle of friends, their students, their patients, their boss, their fellow-workers, or their employees. Protectors have an extraordinary sense of loyalty and responsibility in their makeup, and seem fulfilled in the degree they can shield others from the dirt and dangers of the world.

Source: http://keirsey.com/4temps/protector.asp

Protectors value tradition, both in the culture and in their family.

This is the Guardian least likely to seek positions of leadership since they may feel uncomfortable in the lime-light. They are often seen as the people who do whatever is necessary to keep things running smoothly. They do their best to prevent problems.

Source: http://keirsey.com/personalityzone/wz19.asp

ISFJ will Love you by doing practical things and by saying "I love you", just don't expect them to initiate the verbal expression.

Is a natural for remembering and valuing birthdays, ceremonies, anniversaries, holidays, weddings, tradition, institutions.

Source: http://www.personality-power-for-everyday-living.com/Compatibility-test-isfj.html

What makes them feel best about themselves is when others show them their appreciation of the ISFJ. Consequently, the best gift that the partner of an ISFJ can give them is the expression of their love and appreciation.

ISFJs usually feel a strong need to talk problems and issues over with people before making decisions on their actions.

The love to observe people's reactions and emotions in situations, and so enjoy being around diverse types of people. The ISFJ usually remains reserved around others, and does not open up very much. However, since they have a need to talk things over with others in order to make decisions, they do really need some close confidantes in their life.

Source: http://www.personalitypage.com/html/ISFJ_rel.html

// thanks MP

How I Spent My Year 2010

I don't expect you guys to read all of this...but I hope you take the time to answer this survey yourselves just to reflect on the past year. If you do this, answer truthfully and with meaningful answers that you can look back on several years from now; it's amazing to look back on how you've grown.

This is my 8th straight year of doing this, and it's an absolute TRIP looking back and my old posts. Anyways, here it is.

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Why You Should Never Post Your Number in a Chatroom

@[RaelynneRosales](http://twitter.com/RaelynneRosales) i saw something protrude from your vagina today. what the hell?[kevinlien](http://twitter.com/kevinlien) wthell are you talking about?! Lol[ÜberTwitter](http://www.ubertwitter.com/bb/download.php)

What the hell is Kevin talking about? Let me take you back to the beginning...

About a month ago, Benny Luo is logging off Skype and he posts his phone number in the chat. "Everyone, just text me your name so I know which number is yours." logs off

Sorry Benny, but where's the fun in that? bwahahahahah

So instead, for the next few days, everyone from the Skype chat anonymously bombards him with dirty text messages.

As for me, I have two phone numbers (my Google Voice number which I always give out, and my non-Google number which I never use). I eventually 'fess up to Benny and tell him that the really gay texts were from me (my Google number).

But I never tell him about my non-Google number.

One night I overhear Benny on BlogTV asking Raelynne, "Hey, which one is your number?" Rae, my partner in crime, plays along and tells him, "oh, it's a 562 number." I quickly text him from my 562 non-Google number, "hey its rae lol".

"Got it, Rae! Thanks," says Benny.

Fast forward to this past week. I'm at the mall and randomly I see a mannequin that is modeling underwear. I figure "Eh, it might come in handy one day," so I take a close up shot of the crotch.

Anyways, last night, I find out that Benny is at the "Eat Drink Pink" event and he's had quite a few drinks. It was evident to me because when Gina asked him where he was, he texted back, "I don't know...lol"

I decide it is the perfect time to send him that picture...but of course, from the number that he thinks is Raelynne's.

Later that night I notice this conversation on Twitter:

@[RaelynneRosales](http://twitter.com/RaelynneRosales) i saw something protrude from your vagina today. what the hell?less than a minute ago via web

@[kevinlien](http://twitter.com/kevinlien) wtheck?![ÜberTwitter](http://www.ubertwitter.com/bb/download.php)

@[RaelynneRosales](http://twitter.com/RaelynneRosales) haha i'm serious!less than a minute ago via web

@[kevinlien](http://twitter.com/kevinlien) wthell are you talking about?! Lol[ÜberTwitter](http://www.ubertwitter.com/bb/download.php)

@[RaelynneRosales](http://twitter.com/RaelynneRosales) haha benny showed me a picture message you sent him. it was quite graphic hahaless than a minute ago via web

@[kevinlien](http://twitter.com/kevinlien) hahaha ohhh from the number he thinks is my number??[ÜberTwitter](http://www.ubertwitter.com/bb/download.php)

@[RaelynneRosales](http://twitter.com/RaelynneRosales) LOL! THAT'S SO SAD. WHAT?!less than a minute ago via web

Bwahahahahaha, mission accomplished!

And if you're wondering what the picture looked like, here it is:

The End.

Love you, Benny!

Q) Tell us five people that mean a lot to you

Here are my "less obvious but still really important to me" guys:

Stan -- My closest friend from high school. We've come a long way since our awkwardly silent two-hour bus ride together for the sophomore retreat, hahah. You're one of the handful of guys that I can legit tell EVERYTHING to. Even though we're both struggling to figure out how to make it in "the real world," I know you got my back...and you know I got yours.

Chris P. -- We both want to make our marks on this world, and you constantly remind me to not settle for anything til we've done it. When I'm running low on inspiration, you always manage to inspire me.

Darwin G. -- My fuckin' awesome college roommate. We had everything in common, man. So many good times. We've completely lost touch since then but you taught me valuable skills that led me to where I am today. You helped me make something of myself and I'll be forever grateful.

Mr. Guillot -- My middle school english teacher...but you taught me SO MUCH MORE than just that -- You taught me to find my own voice; to shine my own inner light. You taught me you how to express my true self in writing. You taught me how to be ME.

Dr. McGeough -- We talked for no longer than 5 minutes but you changed my life forever. You gave me a chance when nobody else would...when even my own college advisors gave up on me. I had flunked out of school...but you got me back in, and I got nothing but A's and B's til I finally graduated.

Of course I have nothin' but love for Mom, Dad, my brothers, UDH, Webb, CPP, BTVfam, TGB and music fam. <3

Q) What are six things you wish you'd never done?

// Day Five

No regrets here. And I don't fully believe in the notion of predestination or that "everything happens for a reason." I believe God/karma/life throws opportunities at us but it's up to us to make the best of those opportunities.

I can't predict what the future is gonna throw at me, nor can I predict how I'll react to something in the heat of the moment. So to hear that "everything happens for a reason" as if all of the good & bad times in my life were already planned out...that just doesn't work for me.

Whatever happens to me -- whether its life's curveballs thrown my way or results of bad decisions I've made in the past -- I define my own reason.

So instead of posting regrets, here are Six Painful Lessons I've Learned:

  1. After my first heartbreak, I learned that love is nothing like the movies. There is no such thing as a simple "happily ever after." Both sides have to trust each other completely, be on the same page and be willing to make great sacrifices for each other.
  2. After another heartbreak, I learned to look at it this way: "You wanted so bad to be with the wrong person, imagine how beautiful it'll be when you find the right one." I also learned, "Don't settle. Ever."
  3. Six years after walking in on my college roommate having sex, I learned to appreciate all of the random, trivial and painful things that led me to where I am today. (You'll have to read that link to see what I mean.)
  4. When someone close to me told me of their dying condition, I learned that we need to take better care of our bodies because we only get one. (I'm totally guilty of forgetting this..I need to remind myself of this more often.)
  5. When my uncle passed away to lung cancer, I learned to never take my mom & dad for granted. This heartbreak also led me to this next one...
  6. ...There is no such thing as "perfection." Embrace all of the imperfections in your life.
  7. After getting my first full-body massage, I learned to ALWAYS request a female masseuse.

Sorry, just had to throw in that extra one, haha.

-Mel

Q) What are seven things that cross your mind a lot?

// Day Four

  • "I'm hungry. What should I eat? Wait, did I eat already? What did I eat? Am I really hungry or am I just looking for something to do?"
  • "I need to check Twitter before too many tweets stack up."
  • "Is this beautiful or useful?" -- If neither, get rid of it.
  • "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
  • "What did I learn today? If today didn't happen, what would I have lost out on?"
  • "Do I mean as much to this person and they mean to me?"
  • "I really really really want the [insert latest Apple product here]."

Q) What are eight ways to win your heart?

// day three

  • give really good hugs. I can tell a lot about us from just a hug.
  • randomly send me sincere text messages.
  • cook me stuff (Seriously! It's not so much about the food...it's more about the gesture of going out of your way for me).
  • surprise me.
  • show me your geeky side (musical, gaming, gadgets)
  • dedicate something to me, no matter how small. A tweet, a shout-out, a video comment, a bodyroll, a cupcake with my name written on it in frosting...anything.
  • be honest with me. You don't have to tell me everything; just don't lie to me.
  • win the heart of someone close to me out of the goodness of your heart (i.e. not having any hidden agendas).
  • not be perfect but always strive to be a better person.

Okay, that was nine things.

Q) Tell us nine things about yourself.

  • If I share food with you, it means I like you.
  • If I eat like a slob around you, it means I feel close to you.
  • I was TRICKED into watching my first porno in 5th grade. It was called, "Ernest Goes to Congress". It definitely wasn't Ernest.
  • My right foot is one full shoe size larger than my left (10.5 and 9.5).
  • I have this OCD where I have to read every single tweet or else I feel like I missed out on something. I'm scared to follow more people cuz that means more tweets that I'll have to read.
  • I am ridiculously OCD over organizing stuff on my computer. My iTunes is all organized with genres, album, artist, tags, ratings and smart playlists. I've spent countless hours organizing my iPhone app icons. All my photos in iPhoto must be originals, not right-clicked-and-saved from Facebook.
  • I LOVE it when my tweets are exactly 140 characters. It makes me happy, like getting a clean swish in basketball.
  • I LOVE to write. The only problem is I'm hella OCD about it too...so I spend a ridiculous amount of time drafting things before I post them. Take my "Thoughts on BTVfam/FAP" post for example...that took me 32 hours...
  • I like things in odd numbers, specifically 3, 5 or 7. You might notice it in my writing.
  • When I use the bathroom, I ALWAYS have to look behind the shower curtain. I have this weird fear that someone is gonna jump from behind it and twitpic me with my pants

Okay, that was ten, hahah.